One of the things I cringe most about is when I hear humankind being unkind with their words. It makes me wonder if they were ever taught the golden adage rule: If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.
Why do people think they can say whatever they want? What happened to consideration and respect? People don't just hide behind a screen and spew nasty comments anymore. Now, people will actually come right up to your face and vomit their rudeness. Why say anything? No one needs to read or hear it.
Why do people want to make others feel bad about themselves? Is it worth it? What may be funny to you may be painful to someone else. I will go on a limb and say some people's sarcasm and jokes are just as hurtful. Nowadays, our culture acts with more entitlement and is quick to be offended. Let's change the narrative, do the opposite, and be proactive about our words. Prevent the offense from even taking root; instead, take the extra step, be conscientious, and be gracious with your words.
As Christians, we're ambassadors of heaven. If people know we're of the faith, they may associate our unpleasant talk with Jesus. Jesus didn't come to be served but to serve (Mark 10:45). Let's be like Him and serve with our words. I told my husband the other day that people should feel better about themselves after being with you. Be wise and intentional with what comes out of your mouth. Try to speak life and hope.
I Thessalonians 5:11 says, "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing."
Use this tip for friends and foes. Invite Holy Spirit into your words. Take a moment and ask Him what you should say. I apply it to strangers too. I try to do this when I'm shopping and have a few minutes with a cashier. It's fun to see the person light up when you confirm something about them that you would never have known if it wasn't for the download by the Holy Spirit. To see the crescent smile form on their face is priceless. I noticed when I do this, it shifts their attitude. In one way, it's how we can pay it forward. Imagine the countenance of the cashier after you leave them. Their mood changes for the better, the other customers will appreciate the cashier's new disposition, and you're blessed because God used you to deposit joy into someone else's life —a win-win for everyone.
When my kids were younger, their Sunday school teacher taught them to prophesy to others by starting their sentences with, "When I look at you, I see..." What a brilliant way to speak reassurance into someone's life.
Another way to encourage someone is by saying, "What I love (like) about you is ..." I guarantee it will grab someone's attention positively.
"I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned."
~ Matthew 12:36-37
We have no excuse to say whatever we want. Use a tighter filtration system if you have to. People will appreciate it, plus we deserve better from each other.
"Be Known for How You Champion People." ~Steve Backlund
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